What if the words we tell ourselves were powerful enough to change how we experience life?
What if our perception of reality and our feelings were literally created by the words that fill our internal monologue?
What if trading out the toxic words for nourishing ones could transform our lives?
Our thoughts create our feelings. Our feelings, in turn, shape our experiences. Experiences and moments add up to days, which add up to years, which add up to a lifetimes. When the thoughts are nourishing, the feelings are healthy, and so is our life. And it all comes down to the words we believe about ourselves.
The greatest determinant of success is what we believe about ourselves.
Think about that for a moment. What do you believe about yourself?
“Words have a magical power. They can bring either the greatest happiness or deepest despair... Words are capable of arousing the strongest emotions and prompting all [people’s] actions.” —Sigmund Freud
What words do you speak to yourself regularly?
Think about the words that fill your mind. This is the best indicator of what you believe about yourself.
So many of us play recordings in our minds with messages that are self-defeating, disempowering and keep us locked into our comfort zone. Sometimes we have them set on “replay.”
How many of these sound familiar to you?
I’m not good enough.
If they discover this ________(fill in the blank) about me they’ll never accept/like me.
I’m not thin/pretty/smart/popular/wealthy enough.
No one cares to hear the truth I have to share.
My pain and tears don’t matter to anyone.
I don’t matter/make a difference.
I’ll be happy when I _______________(fill in the blank).
My humans aren’t smart/good-looking enough.
I look awful.
My home is not clean/big/fancy enough.
I’m not in good enough shape.
I don’t have enough time.
If I don’t yell, they won’t listen.
If I admit the truth, my life will change for the worst.
I don’t deserve the life I dream of.
I can never accomplish my dreams.
My value depends on their opinion of me.
I don’t deserve love.
My needs don’t matter.
My situation is hopeless.
If I don’t have this thing/substance/food in my life, I can’t cope
Do these messages sound familiar to you?
When you make a mistake how do you talk to yourself?
Do you use disparaging words like idiot, stupid, or worse, to describe yourself?
Your self-talk may be creating a stumbling block for you.
Tune in for the next blog entry as we explore this further.